Rising Strong: How To Embrace Failure
An experience we all tend to avoid encountering, failure in its most common sense has always been associated with negative connotations. Defined as a ‘lack of success’, for many the prospect of rising to a challenge (no matter how big or small) only to be met with unsatisfactory results can be daunting at the least and terrifying at the best, but it shouldn't have to be this way. Failing has been cited by some of the most successful people in the world as the ticket to eventual success and fulfilment. Read on for how you too can learn to shake off the fear that the prospect of failing elicits and use it to propel you to places you never thought possible.
PLAN FOR THE WORST, EXPECT THE BEST
Whilst this saying may at first sound disheartening, it is always an assured way to safeguard your plans. Through creating a plan of action in case failure strikes, means that you are ready to take whatever you’re working on/hoping to achieve into another direction without loss if initial plans do not succeed.
START A JOURNAL
Here at aevi we are firm proponents of journaling, and truly believe that there is no better way to track patterns in your own failures and successes than through this amazing personal development tool. Begin to document mistakes as well as successes and achievements, to evaluate the different areas of your life that may need to be directed down a different path or executed using a different approach.
CHANGE YOUR MINDSET
Whist changing a long-held mindset takes time and work, we have found that the best way to do so is through utilising the step above, recording our failures, successes and feelings and emotions around both in a journal. Faced with a list of your perceived mistakes of the past, with time, you should slowly be able to see how you have learned from them and how they have helped you in some way, shape or form to get to where you are today.
VIEW FAILED DECISIONS AND OUTCOMES AS EXPERIMENTS
We all know that feeling of anxiety (and often paralysis) that arises when we worry about making the perfect choice or not making the right one to get us to where we want to be. When we take the ‘final choice’ component out of the equation and instead view our decisions or outcomes as ‘experiments’, more often than not you’ll find those feelings of dread and fear become disempowered.
FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY
One of the hardest things to do; staring fear, uncertainty and failure in the face can be a monumental feat for even the sturdiest of us, however like with anything, the more you face it, the easier it becomes to do so. Whilst as human beings we are programmed to do whatever possible to avoid pain, standing up to unpleasant feelings when necessary and facing them head on is the only way you will be able to realise the next step to take within your unique journey.
Just remember - feeling the fear and doing it anyway is an amazing achievement and absolutely necessary for starting again, eradicating the concept of 'failure' from your vocabulary, rising strong and cultivating success in all areas of your life.